Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady

HUSBAND SCARCITY...a must read
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
women today. If
you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were more men than women then, or there was
an adequate corresponding numbers of both
genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women
had values and were prepared to build a home
and not park into a built home. Then, once a
young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to insinuate? We created
what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity"

for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream husband;
you
get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair,
and rich, own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the
number of girls around you and the number of
men that meet that standard, and you will see
the problem.
You would be hearing girls say, "I cannot suffer
in my father's
house and then go and start suffering with a
man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you
have
everything you want and there is no suffering,
and later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will
you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it
is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is
that the description majority of ladies give of
their ideal man is
virtually the same. When 50 ladies want the
same kind of man
and the man that fits what they want is just 1
man, and the
man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of
49 others?
They simply start
lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due
to the face of
our economy to find a man who is of marriage
age who
possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally (except those involved
in Internet
fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud
is not
enough to match all those searching for already
made
husbands. If you look around, majority of the
ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a
home with a man who has prospects, are
married and not
complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man
God made and then saw that it may be hard for
man to really
actualize the purpose for making him, without a
help mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and he
felt complete
and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a
mission of building the family that will serve God
here on
earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way
into bondage.
Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A
MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is
that YOU MAY
BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your
way and talks of marriage, not all men are
husband materials.
What I am insinuating is that you should stop
setting your
standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances.
Look metaphysical (beyond physical).
WHAT MAKES A MAN IS WHO HE IS, IS NOT
WHAT HE OWNS OR
HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that
which he is made of is, most times, not seen
with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen
is temporal
and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did not just make Eve for making sake; He
made her for
Adam's need.