From A KcB Lady: I Just Got Married But I still Have My Eyes On.......

Hey goodmorning guys. Hope you all slept well. And Yes, i am still awake now. I was just reading and hey i got a mail. I never knew some kinda people would remember me sha, but she did. I got this mail from an old friend and i couldnt just help but put up.

 While i was reading, i got confused as to why she sent it but few seconds later, she called and begged me to put it up for her on my blog. The gist abi story is quite long but believe me its an interesting one.Please find time to read it

 Hello My Fellow Kriscamdi blog readers, the story i am about to tell is no joke, it happened to me and its still happening right now. I dont know where to start, but i would rather say: My name is Cindy and i just got married.

You may say whats your business with that but it might be your business if you are dating someone right now, yet to be married. 

I got into the University pretty young and i was still naive and as my friends would say, i was still a learner. It was still the fresh start of school and things went on fine. Met a couple of guys back then but there was this guy in my department. He was so calm, intelligent and different(for my eyes sha). I had my eyes on him but I couldnt walk up to him(na to fall ma hands na). 
Now it all started during one of our GSS classes and we happened to be paired alongside some other departmental peeps(i felt lucky sha) and i finally got to talk to him personally. We got along so easily like we had known for ages and for a second i felt he also had his eyes on me. We were getting so close that one day he called and said he was comin over to have a meal with me, he came, we ate and got talking. Gisted for so long that we didnt even know when it got too late and dat was when many things started getting into my head. He had his shower and he came out all good and fresh and laid on the floor(forming beta pikin) i called him to the bed, wouldnt be nice for my visitor to sleep on the floor, (my first mistake). 
He came up to the bed and made his first bad night impression. I said to myself, guys would always be guys. I got mad at him and pushed him away, practically asked him to leave my house and that was barely 2:30am. He begged and i was so angry that i shut my door behind him not knowing that he had no where else to go so he sat by my door. After some minuites i opened the door, saw him and asked him to come in and told him not to try that again.my 2nd mistake(will explain later) he came in and apologised and i forgave him.he slept and very early in the morning he left koz we had lectures. To cut the long story short, that was how it all started and we started dating, i was a virgin, he was a virgin, we started being together, dated till we left school which was almost six years.(pheeew!!!), my dear lots and lots and lots of things happened within those years(No be small something).

I got so used to him that even when we travel, we could barely stay a week without seeing each other.The love was blazing hot and i believe is still.We shared lots of things in common and even not yet married, we lived our life as thou we where married. Then i felt my life was ok and nothing was ever gona seperate us. Our life was just too perfect together, no one else could just fit in and in my wildest  dreams i never thought that the only thing that could seperate us was Marriage. 

Here is the big one. Now i am working and so is he, i wanted to settle down he wasnt ready yet. I asked him when he would want to settle down and he looked more like it wasnt close(young guy tho) I know he might still need some more time to stable before settling down, but i am the only daughter.I got lots of pressure from my parents and also from my peer. I felt i was getting to matured to wait any longer and my parents had already started getting worried if i wasnt going to get married.I couldnt leave him but i had to go to a different state, but i told him i was going to see my uncle, i left, changed my sim card, deacatived my social network accounts. Was really difficult for me but i had to. Few montgs after then i met someother guy, was nice though very caring and fun to be with, after a while, he proposed to me and i couldnt just say no because i wanted to just get married at a young age. Now its been just 2yrs into our marriage and whenever we make love, all i see is Camdi(my boyfrnd) whenever we talk i sometimes mistakenly call my husband Camdi, the worst happened when i made Camdi's favourite food for my husband *sincerely i totally forgot* obviously the memories are still there, i dont know if i would call it love, but i know its still there. I Still think about him always. 

I dont know if my 2nd mistake was letting him come back into my room then koz i know if i had left him out then he might have just gotten so mad and maybe we wouldnt have been together or is it that i made a 3rd mistake by running from him and leaving him to get married to someone else? 

Anyways, i know i will have to deal with it all my life now because i cant leave my marriage. 

I know my story may have been boring but i wish to just use my experience to help tell my fellow young girls. Marriage is a good thing, getting married can be so so lovely. But before you, have a good reason for that, let it be because you are ready, because you are prepared to, because you love your man enough to spend the rest of your life with him and not because almost all your friends are getting married, not because your dad or mum wants you to and not because you think you are getting too old. I know we girls have our time to shine but please dont let your shine make you blind. 

Think, reflect and pray before you get married, i am in this mess right now just because i was so in a hurry, Note: i love my husband but i think i still love my boyfriend more.

This one is long sha oo, but i think it went down well.. and please oo the camdi she is referring to i dont think its mine oo, please just dont get it twisted. Please guys what do you think?